Sunday, May 29, 2011

Happy with what I have or What you have?




How many people do you know who are genuinely happy for you?? You think when you tell people of something good that is happening in your life, that they're happy for you. Yes, maybe on the surface they are, they nod and smile and say the words "I’m so happy for you." But majority of the time there are very few people who GENIUNLY mean that. Most of the time they feel that sudden pang of jealousy and they begin to question "why them and not me" "when will it be my turn," and "why are they ahead of me"

The truth is we are all human and unfortunately these emotions and feelings are a part of who we are. Its how well you control them which is the tough part. Like I said in my previous post, you can know someone all your life, but that doesn’t mean that they will share your happiness so joyfully. Hell, there is jealousy between siblings so why would it be any different between friends?

Something good happens to your friend, whether it be a career change, an engagement announcement or just the fact that everything in their life seems blissful and perfect and there you have it, the un nerving comparison takes over and you begin to question why god is punishing you and when will it be your time. Its very easy to sit there and think when will it be me, when is it my turn, but do you ever stop and think,what the good things are in your life? Its very easy to forget about what you have and want what some one else has.

Just because it hasn’t happened to you yet, doesn’t mean it wont. May be it will just take longer to get there. Or maybe it just wasn’t meant to be for you. Sure its annoying as hell when you realize someone is better then you at something, or they are ahead of you and your lagging behind. At that point you begin to get impatient which eventually turns into jealousy and then your at the point where you can no longer hear about others peoples joy because all you keep thinking is ‘stop rubbing it my face’

Life is full of un-nerving comparisons, men get head stong and arrogant and woman get bitchy and well..weird. Who cares. Jealousy is something that can be seen and is written all over your face its the unattractive quality that slowly makes people or your 'friends' step away from you till your no longer needed in their life. It will eat away at you till all you do is moan and moan about how imperfect your life is. Its tiring and the type of negativity that people dont want to be surrounded by.

You assume your friend who got the big house the big car the big holidays is the luckiest girl in the world. maybe she is, or maybe all the materialistic things don't weigh upto the amount of hurt and unhappiness she's feeling. Where as you may not have all the materialistic things but your surrounded by so much love and happiness which you choose to ignore because you cant go out and buy a car at the drop of a hat.

Its always easy to ask, why is it not me and very easy to forget whats good about you and what you have. If your constantly making comparisons between you and the next person then it will start to define who you are and slowly negativity will eat you away and the way i see it is..

"Don't waste your time on jealousy, sometimes your ahead, sometimes your behind" ADIDAS.

1 comment:

  1. This blog has inspired me to get my writing cap on again... and first thing, I think what you say is right. And I'd like to add this:

    It is also human nature to keep changing - whether that be externally or internally. On the internal side, some days we feel mature - other days we feel childish, some hours we feel happy - others not so, some minutes we are focused - others lost.

    Therefore, sometimes we are immensely and genuinely happy for someone's successes, but, like you say, other times we are immensely jealous and insecure about one's own future - always comparing someone else's good fortune against one's (perceived) ill fate. It is only human nature to feel these contrasting and sometimes conflicted emotions.

    Yet, it is how one channels these emotions that makes the difference, as having negative feelings cannot affect the person who has caught one's attention at that moment in time, it can only affect oneself - one can either let that negative emotion turn into self hatred and fear or flip it into a challenge.

    The challenge to reach that next stage in life, to reach for that next goal, however, small or big. To not be bound by other people's expectations (and this is a very difficult part to over come) - because, at the end of the day, the only person who has any right to question you, is you.

    To finish, also with a quote, "There will always people better off than you, yet there will always be people worse off". Be yourself, never give up.

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