‘When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. When you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.’ – Tibetan Buddhist sayingDeath is a weird word and a weird experience to go through, when you hear the words' I’m sorry they have passed away' our mind tells us we should psychologically act in a certain way, we should cry, we should be down. The truth is we will have ups and downs, some days we will feel a certain way and other days we will have other emotions. I guess in a way its all part of the learning process that we face that determines our strength and weaknesses.
If we are being brutally honest within our selves we are never 'prepared' for tragedy or pain, we aren't programmed to react a certain way when we hear something, emotions take over and run wild and soon we are sat in a puddle of our own tears. We question why that person left what made them disappear why god chose them and why now? Was there something you missed or something you could have done? Reality is we will never know. We will never know what went through their minds in those last few moments.
It’s hard to imagine that one moment some one is visible in your life and the next minute they are not. As hard as it is, life is such a thing that nothing beautiful lasts forever. When you get these things you don't think of their 'use by date' you appreciate what they are for that moment in time. Obviously I know that its much harder when its a person you miss everything about them, their laugh, their smile, their eyes and in general just the presence they have in your life. Its also a shock as you always go back to the beginning and over play every second every moment you spent and shared with them and wonder why you wont get another time.
We spend so much time wasting our emotions on little things that have no meaning in the world instead of focusing on the big picture. Life is so short that we don't often say the words in our hearts and mean them. We live to continue to put ourselves through various emotions and take people for granted. We are being mature when we say we know that people have to go in their time and yes we have to learn to deal with it no matter how long it takes. Instead of focusing on the emotional roller coaster lets celebrate their life. We were fortunate to know them for the special time we shared with them. We were fortunate enough to have them grace our lives with their wonderful presence.
Life is too short to not make those around know how much they mean to you, life is too short for 'tomorrow' life is too short to be down and constantly wondering when it will get better. Life is too short to not smile,
I believe in after life I believe my dear friend is looking over us dressed is his attire being like '' hey buddy don't be sad I just had to go' no doubt I think he is chilling and playing poker with jimmy Hendrix, Heath Ledger, John Lennon and probably trying it on with some of the cool babes out there and is continuing his journey above. He will never be forgotten, as his birthday approaches every year celebrations will take place all over the globe as that is how many lives he touched.
You never know when and where and why people are taken from us, but they are and we can’t change that and one thing is for certain that its probably not making them happy by seeing us so sad. So we have to think about the good times the memories and know that they are still around us in different ways and we will never ever feel short of their presence. If some one is physically gone they will never be mentally or emotionally erased from our memories. They will live on and we will continue to thank god for each day we spend on this earth and each day we shared with them…
‘Everywhere I go
Every smile I see
I know you are there
Smilin' back at me
Dancin' in moonlight
I know you are free
Cuz' I can see your star
Shinin' down on me’
Happy 30th Birthday Buddy. RIP love always, always in my thoughts. xxxxxxx