Know me? Know me not?

A lot of people throughout your life will claim they know you very well. Especially the ones that grew up with you will say they know you the best. They have became a daily fixture in your life. Starting from days, which turns into months and eventually years.
But let me ask you one thing, do these people know you better then you know yourself?
People always say “I have so many friends,” but do you really?
Throughout your life you meet people along the way and most of them are acquaintances and some are friends and those friends will stick by you no matter what. They will always be there for you and appreciate you for who you are.

I don’t believe that these people have to know you throughout your whole life, some come into your life a lot later then expected and the bond between you is so strong that you instantly feel that warm connection and its as though you’ve know them an entire life time.

Sometimes we spend so much time with someone and claim that we know their exact thoughts, feelings and actions that we mis-interpretate the truth behind it. We psychologically embed a thought into their head such as ”you must be feeling like this.’ or “you acted like that” and because it makes sense to us, they believe it too.

Another term used loosely is ‘best friend’ what defines a best friend? I mean what does that word even mean?! If you have known someone since you were born, lived next door to them, went to the same school, went on holiday with them, does that make them your “BFF.” People often confuse length of time with realistic friendship and so therefore your friendship becomes a habit and a convenience to your everyday life.

I find that I have a lot of close friends, some closer then others, some know all of me and some know a part of me. Some who understand all parts of me and some who think they understand me. I think the biggest part of growing up is about the people you meet. Sometimes you don’t need to speak to your friends’ everyday but you know when you do, nothing has changed. As we grow up, we take different paths. Work and personal commitments means you may have less time to physically see your friends and mentally don’t have the capacity to switch on into ‘friend mode’ but that doesn’t mean you don’t care or you don’t want to see them. If you can pick up the phone after a long period of time and feel like you only saw that person yesterday then you know it’s a genuine friendship and that’s the beauty of it. That’s when you know someone knows you.

“To know someone is knowing yourself.
To know yourself is to know who you are,
Without knowing who you are,
No one will ever know you."